conflict archetype

noun

a typical pattern of conflict.

"The politicians fell back on a defamation routine when one made the shocking allegation that the other had an unscrupulous personal life."

See Conflict Archetypes.

emotional courage

noun

the willingness to confront difficult feelings.

"Sensitivity doesn't indicate weakness; hiding from your feelings does."

See My Values or The Way of the Uncalloused Fist.

Essence of the Game

noun

the intrinsic, true nature of a competition, devoid of any design flaws or practical loopholes.

"Football (soccer) is supposed to be about how good a team is at scoring goals, not faking injuries."

See Technical vs. Essential Victory.

essential victory

noun

to win according to the Essence of the Game, but not the technical rules. As opposed to a technical "victory."

See Technical vs. Essential Victory.

fauxspeak

noun

any language or communication that is deceptive or appears to transmit information while also intentionally, maliciously hindering its clear, easy, immediate reception or comprehension.

ex: sending a letter to the wrong address, telling a hint that is not understood, unnecessarily verbose or confusing contracts.

general perfectionism

noun

the relentless pursuit of all-encompassing perfectionism.

The founder of Apple, Steve Jobs, was a general perfectionist. See also specific perfectionism.

hikehitcher

noun

someone who picks up hitchhikers.

"Hikehitching can be a risky but also rewarding experience."

introspective negligence

noun

refusal or failure to engage in self-reflection.

"Immorality and introspective negligence are usually correlated."

inversion

noun

the reversal of something into an unnatural, unhealthy or inefficient direction contrary to its design.

"They inverted their shame into pride as a defense mechanism."

karmic debt

noun

an oft-underestimated sum of utility or value that must be fully recompensed in order to make amends, resolve conflict or achieve redemption.

"Underestimating the principal or interest rate on karmic debt can make it irrecoverable if it exceeds one's capacity to repay."

See Karmic Mechanics.

perfect victory

noun

to win both according to the technical rules and Essence of the Game.

See Technical vs. Essential Victory.

projection

noun

the unconscious transfer of one's desires or emotions to another person.

"I did not realize I was projecting myself onto them."

Note: I did not invent this psychology term.

proxy photo

noun

a nearly identical, authorized and acknowledged substitute photo for when an original is unavailable.

"He showed a proxy photo of a bull terrier to represent what his friend's dog looked like."

quasi-intentional

adjective

an act that is deliberate, but also somewhat rooted in unconscious drives.

"Quasi-intentional misdeeds may be caused by introspective negligence, but are not excused by it."

robocop

noun

Derived from the 1987 science fiction film, this term describes an insensitive, dull and authoritarian person.

"Robocops hate drugs because they bring them to life."

Sabotage Impulse

noun

the envious desire to sabotage or ruin for others what one cannot achieve for themself.

"When victory escapes them, sore losers are prone to sabotage the leading player."

shadow

noun

in psychology, the Shadow is the unconscious, repressed part of your personality that you deny but which still controls you.

"Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate." - Carl Jung

specific perfectionism

noun

the relentless pursuit of a specific or narrow type of perfectionism.

The world's fastest sprinter is a specific perfectionist. See also general perfectionism.

technical "victory"

noun

to win according to the technical rules, but not Essence of the Game. As opposed to an essential victory.
For a further explanation, see Technical vs. Essential Victory.

See Technical vs. Essential Victory.